I had a conversation with an amazing, ambitious—yet very frustrated—woman in her 40’s. She spent 7 years getting degrees and the last 15 building her business. She had reached a level of success women rarely reach, yet something was missing.
She desired a juicy love life with the right, high-caliber man who was emotionally available, loving and financially successful.
But this wasn’t just about a man, she also desired…
~ A fun social life filled with high quality people who inspire, excite and support her in every area of her life…
~ The freedom to travel the world part of the year—or live internationally—enjoying a beautiful, adventurous and spontaneous life, and…
~ She wanted to enjoy all of this while continuing to grow the financial and career success she’d already created for herself.
To most women, this sounds too good to be true. In fact, if the ‘Old Rhonda’ read this years ago, she would have thought it was reserved for a ‘lucky’ few.
It’s not about luck, there is a reason few women live this kind of lifestyle. I discovered 3 common challenges—invisible to most women—that stand in their way.
In the media, there have been heated debates as to whether we ladies can really ‘have it all?’
After speaking with thousands of women over the years, I realized just how deeply we’re conditioned to automatically think we must sacrifice or trade something we desire for something else.
We feel the pressure to choose:
~ between work and love
~ between family and running a business
~ between staying fit and building wealth
~ between our independence and being in a relationship
~ between [you fill in the blank] with the tradeoff you or your girlfriends are experiencing
We spend decades of our adult years trading off, feeling unfulfilled and in a mentality of lack, austerity and sacrifice.
It just feels so darned hard!
I’ve found that women face 3 common challenges.
Challenge #1: Hyper-focusing on work
I was chatting with an entrepreneur in her 30’s who came to me for support. She went through a series of bad relationships and decided to take a 6-month break from dating to heal.
She woke up 4 years later, wondering why her love life didn’t ‘just happen?’ She’d bought into one of 5 myths I’ll be sharing in the next article.
You’ve seen this before, heck, you may have even done it.
Unfortunately, lots of women, pushed by feminism, demanding parents and social pressures end up with this challenge.
(By the way, my client is happily dating several handsome, high quality men. I reveal what she did in this series.)
Challenge #2: Working too hard at love
One of my graduate clients, a highly successful woman in the medical field, had spent two decades of her life without so much as a relationship. She was immersed in her work and thought things would ‘just happen.’
At almost 40, she was starting to feel pressured because she wanted children. For several years, she did EVERYTHING you could think of.
She read dozens of books on relationships. She went to singles events. She took courses on understanding men. She got a makeover. She started dating online. She took self-study courses.
Her inbox was jammed with conflicting advice from dozens of popular gurus. She asked people to set her up or if they knew any good single men. She had her plan, and she was going to make it happen!
Zip. Zilch. Nada.
She only attracted a couple low quality men who didn’t respect her, let alone ask her our on a serious date. She was fed up and was about to give up on online dating for good. That’s when a mutual friend introduced us.
In less than 4 weeks, she attracted 3 high quality men to date using her online profile. She was ecstatic!
We lost touch for a while, until one day, I received an email from her. Within 12 short months, she had met and married her loving, handsome surgeon hubby!
Here’s the email she sent me (minus her private information)
The problem with working too hard at love is that you emanate a desperate, hurried energy. Even if you don’t consciously feel you do.
Challenge #3: Self-sabotage based on conditioning
I had a chat with a business owner who had realized her dream of living abroad and fell madly in love with a man she’d met there. She was on a high, when everything started to unravel…
Her boyfriend was offered a job in another country. He said he loved her, but didn’t invite her to move with him. He eventually broke things off with her after stringing her along for a year.
Then her career started to tank, so she had to give up her international lifestyle. As she grew more and more depressed, she started comforting herself with food. The extra pounds added to her misery and depression.
At 58, with an extra 40 pounds of weight, she felt she would never recover, let alone find a high quality man who would find her attractive.
It turns out her parents always sacrificed big. They never had the lifestyle they really wanted.
When she was growing up, they used to say things like, “If it’s too good to be true, it probably is” and “You can’t have your cake and eat it too.”
Subconsciously, she felt guilty about their ‘sacrifice for her’, so every time she had it good in more than one area, something always fell a part.
She told herself, “Well, I’m lucky to have one out of three. It’s better than nothing!”
This is a very dangerous place to be. While we should always be grateful for what we have as it’s the stepping stone to receiving more, this belief is dangerous. It’s the enemy of your true desires.
Today, she runs her own business, is doing well financially, attracted a high quality man into her life and is planning her next international adventure.
The Key to Experiencing Success In More Than One Area at a Time…
You can have the love life you desire (whatever that looks like for you) and maintain, grow the financial and career success you’ve already created for yourself.
The key is not segmenting ‘areas’ of your life, but realizing they are all connected.
When you focus only on your work—or your love life, it’s like focusing only on inner self-growth–while neglecting your appearance. Or, on the flip side, only focusing on your appearance while ignoring your character and self-development.
Yet we do it for decades of our lives.
No wonder so many women lead such unfulfilling lives!
What did these ladies discover that got them such rapid results?
They discovered the power of having a high value foundation.
When you have a high value foundation, not only do you get to enjoy a delicious, fulfilling love life while growing your professional and financial success…
You go far, far beyond that.
You get a CLU.
You experience a Complete Lifestyle Upgrade.
You have the opportunity to experience a more beautiful and expansive version of life than you’ve every imagined. You already feel it. You have the desire for more. Or you wouldn’t have been drawn to read this at this moment in your life.
Being open to a completely upgraded life is like experiencing the world in color—after having lived decades in black and white. It’s beyond words.
The key is knowing all areas of your life are connected and building them a high value foundation.
In this short series, I’m going to show you how.
That said, there have been many other side benefits of having a high value foundation.
What I’m about to share is not meant to brag, but to show you how much having a high value foundation can transform your life. By choosing the path less travelled, you can create the lifestyle you desire.
#1: How Having a High Value Foundation Consistently Raises the Bar in Your Career & Finances
When I first started out in business, I couldn’t sell a $97 4-week program to save my life, and making $50 an hour felt like a dream. The struggle was so painful, I wanted to give up many times.
I’m so grateful I didn’t! After using what I’ll be sharing in this series, I went on to enjoy 5-figure months.
When you have a high value foundation, raising your fees and charging what you’re worth is not an issue.
#2: How Having a High Value Foundation Attracts Wonderful Clients Who Respect You & Pay You Handsomely
The biggest reward is that I get to use all my gifts to help women entrepreneurs, business owners, executives, entertainers and leaders world-wide raise the bar–personally and professionally.
They gladly invest in my services and programs—even though my fees are on the higher end in the industry. They see the value. I don’t have to beg or convince them. I attract them naturally.
You start to love Mondays! You wake up happy to go to work because you love who you work with, what you do and know you’re getting paid what you desire.
#3: How Having a High Value Foundation Naturally Attracts the Right, High-Caliber Men
In my early twenties, my love life was a mess. I dated men who cheated, were emotionally abusive and unavailable. I was constantly trying to prove value to ‘keep’ them interested.
Until one humiliating night, I decided I was done settling for less. (I’ll tell you what happened in one of the next articles. It’s worse than a soap opera and reality show rolled into one!)
I used the secrets I’ll be sharing with you in this series to break my old relationship patterns and actually start repelling low quality men. (Yes, it can be done)
One day, my one-in-seven-billion Beloved walked into my life. I am not afraid of what will happen in my relationship. I dropped all the insecurity and proving my worth.
You attract the highest-caliber, loving, ambitious, affluent Alpha men who respect you, support you, recognize your genius and see your beauty (inside and out).
I know that if my relationship should end, it will be my choice to be single or not.
#4: How Having a High Value Foundation Keeps You From Settling for a Less
As a student, I used to work as an assistant fashion designer at Bloomingdale’s & Macy’s headquarters in NYC.
The truth is, the fashion industry is far from glamorous.
It was my job to sort and catalog hundreds of photos from the head designers glam trips to London, Paris, St. Tropez and Milan. I had to sift through bags of clothing samples to find inspiration for our new collections. Then I got to design pieces for upcoming collections—with the company name on it.
I lived vicariously through other people’s more adventurous and interesting lives.
Ugghhh! I hated it!
I used to look down at Madison Square Garden (from the window of our skyscraper), and wonder, “Is this all I have to look forward to once I graduate?”
A high value foundation gave me the courage to sell everything and buy a one-way ticket to Europe. I didn’t speak the language. I had no connections. I had no work lined up.
Within a year, I had started my first venture, and went on to launch ventures in 3 more countries. I have been a serial entrepreneur ever since and never worked for anyone else.
Today, I am blessed to live internationally and travel the world mentoring women from 70 countries. I truly love my life, and I owe it all to having a high value foundation!
I’m still amazed…
My high value foundation is the reason why I was able to build a highly profitable business, attract the right, high-caliber man, have the freedom to live internationally, and the confidence to realize my true desires—no matter how big, scary or out there.
The big question is how do you build an unshakable, high value foundation—in YOUR QUEST to enjoy a passionate fulfilling love life and live the lifestyle you know you were meant to—as a woman who has reached a certain level of success?
That’s why I’m proud to announce a new series that I’ll be running for The High Value Woman tribe over the next few days.
(This is where you’ll get deliciously practical tips you can implement in your life right now).
- I’m going to take you behind the scenes of how I created what I have, and how I help my clients and students do the same.
- I’m going to bust common myths wide open. (Cause you’ve likely wasted months–if not years of your life believing them. I have!)
- I’m going to reveal some specific strategies YOU can use to start getting a complete lifestyle upgrade today.
- And much more.
All-in-all, by the end of this series, I hope to empower thousands of women to start creating a WHOLE life that brings them joy, fulfillment and more success on their own terms…no matter what that looks like.
So, if you’re not part of our tribe yet, make sure you JOIN US to ensure you don’t miss out. (Free 25-minute mentoring audio included!)
And if you LOVE what this series stands for, take a second and share this with a girlfriend. Want to reach tens of thousands of women, and with your help, we can do it!
In the mean time, I want you to leave a comment and answer this one simple question:
Do you believe you can have what you desire in your love life, work life and lifestyle—no matter what that looks like?
- If yes, what do you want? Describe it in detail, and explain how you’d like this series to help you co-create it.
- If no, tell me more. What do you want? Describe it. Why don’t you think you can have it?
Also, know this:
I’m still putting this content together right now. So, if you’ve got any specific questions about this leave a comment asking your question, and I may be able to work it into this series.
With love and in service,